IN a NUTSHELL

 

 

 

Everything is Connected

Have you noticed that whenever you exercise regularly, you feel like eating healthier food?

Have you noticed that when you eat healthier food, you have more energy –

So you feel like exercising more?

Everything in life is connected.

Effort you put into one part of your life affects all the other parts.

When you are happy at home, you are happier at work.

When you are happy at work, you are happier at home.

So what does all this mean?

  • That to improve your life you can start on any positive path.

You might start with a savings plan, a goal list, a fitness program or a commitment to spend more time with your children. That positive path will lead to other positive results because everything is connected.

  • It doesn’t matter where you start to put more effort into your life. It matters that you start.
  • It works both ways! If you let one part of your life collapse, everything will begin to spiral downward. This keeps us paying attention!

In a Nutshell

Everything you do matters!

Happiness is a daily decision.

 

 

 

 

 


What Surrounds You

Did you ever walk into a public washroom that smelt so bad that you wanted to choke?

Did you notice something?

After five minutes it didn’t smell so bad!

And what if you had accidentally locked yourself in there for an hour?

You might be saying, “What smell?”

There’s a principle operating here. We get used to our environment.

Live with miserable people, and you become miserable – and you think it’s normal!

Work with critical people, and you become critical _ and you think it’s normal.

If your friends tell lies, it worries you – in the beginning.

Eventually you get used to people telling lies.

Hang out with them long enough and you’ll tell some yourself!

Mix with happy and motivated people, and you become happy and motivated – and you think that is normal.

If your family is negative and miserable, then you need to find some bright, happy friends. Somewhere in your life, you need positive company or the pessimists will drag you down – and you won’t even know it is happening.

In a NUTSHELL

We are all affected – and infected – by the people and attitudes around us. Sometimes we need to take action – or change the company we keep.

 

 

 

 


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Peace of Mind

If you ask your neighbor,

“What would give you peace of mind?” he might tell you,

“A vacation in Bermuda!” or “An extra hundred grand would give me

peace!”, or “A new Ferrari would make me content!”

But going places – and getting stuff – is usually a temporary solution …

Let’s say you buy a lottery ticket and buy some miracle you win your

dream Ferrari.

Today you are content. Tomorrow you are saying, “If I could just catch

that little punk who scratched it in the car park!” Peace of mind rarely

comes from getting more stuff. Getting more stuff usually leads to

wanting even more stuff!

Peace of mind starts with being grateful for what you have right now.

Gratitude is power, and here’s why …

When you are thankful for what you have – for the friends you have,

and for the things you’ve got –  you attract more good people and

good things.

People who always complain about what they DON’T HAVE, stay stuck.

Complainers attract more thing to complain about!

It is a law of life. It’s hard to explain, but you can observe it around

you. We get more of  what we dwell upon. That’s why all the spiritual

masters have taught the same lesson …

“Start by being thankful. Be happy with what you have now, and more

will come to you.”

In a nutshell

Every time you say a silent “thank you” you become more peaceful

– and more powerful.

 

 

 

 

 

 


Focus on What You Want

You are about to make a speech in front of two hundred people. You tell yourself, “Don’t be nervous! Don’t forget your lines! Don’t embarrass yourself!” then you get on stage and what happens? You screw it up! You even forget your wife’s name!

Why does this happen when you told yourself not to be an idiot? It’s because of the way our minds work. There is an important principle operating here and it is rarely explained …

Your mind operates on pictures. To do anything you need a picture. To touch your nose, you need a picture in your mind of your finger on your nose. With this correct picture, your subconscious mind can tell the muscles to do it.

To give a confident speech, you need a picture in your head of you giving a confident speech before you even stand up. Only then can your mind instruct your body to act it out.

You cannot give your mind a message not to do something. Your subconscious mind must have a picture of what you want.

So if you tell yourself, “Don’t be nervous!” you automatically fill your subconscious mind with pictures of you shaking and stammering – and that becomes your performance! It’s the law of the mind.

This explains why confidence is so critical in anything you do. When you are confident, you have only positive pictures in your mind – of a good speech, of a relaxed job interview, of a successful driving test. When you are confident, you don’t play disaster movies, you play success movies – so you regularly succeed. You are not perfect, but you always give yourself the best possible chance.

In a Nutshell

Positive thinkers have the habit of picturing what they want, not what they fear! What you think is what you get.

 

 

 

 

 


Friends and Money

I know a guy called Jim. Jim has worked hard all his life and he is worth millions.

Jim lives the good life. He travels a lot, enjoys god food and wine, and loves entertaining

his friends. Jim is easygoing and generous.

Recently, Jim told me about one of his friends, Ted, who is usually broke. He said, “I like Ted. Ted often stays in our home and we also take him on vacation. I have treated him to a hundred meals in some wonderful restaurants. You know what bugs me? Not once in ten years has he bought me a meal or a hamburger, or a lousy coffee!”

Guess what! Even wealthy people keep count!

Even generous people count!

It’s not necessarily the dollars they worry about. It’s the attitude. It’s being taken for granted.

Ted figures, “Jim is rich. Someone has to pay. It may as well be him.”

So far, Jim hasn’t complained. But he’s had enough. And any day now, ted is going to lose a friend – and Ted will ask himself, “What happened?”

Amongst your friends, you know who are the first to reach for their wallets, who are the last to reach for their wallets – and who always forget their wallets.

You also know who’ll be in the bathroom when the bill arrives!

In a Nutshell

If your friends are richer than you, and all you have to spend on them is a dollar, spend that dollar!

 

 

 

 

 


I Can’t Do It

Imagine this story …

During your first weeks of school, you are sitting in mathematics class gazing out the window when the teacher asks you, “What’s the answer?”

“What’s the answer?” you don’t even know the question! You are speechless. Your face turns red. Panic and tears! At that moment you tell yourself, “I hate mathematics!”

That night your mother asks: “How was school?”

You say: “I couldn’t answer the maths question.”

And mother says: “Relax – no one in our family can do mathematics!”

Suddenly you breathe a huge sigh of relief, “Of course I hate multiplication! It’s in my genes!”

Soon you are telling your friends, “I hate mathematics. My entire family is bad with numbers!” you figure, “Why make an effort? I’ll never conquer it!”

But what really happened here? You got a bad start and fell behind.

Maybe this mathematics story didn’t happen to you. But most of us have our own story – about singing, hitting a ball, drawing a picture, about public speaking.

We got a bad start and fell behind. No one came along to encourage us. After one embarrassing experience we gradually convinced ourselves, “I can’t do it.”

Do you have fixed ideas about what you can and can’t do? Where did you get these ideas? Are they facts?

In a Nutshell

When we give ourselves a second chance, and get some help, very often we can do it!

 


Make Me Happy

When you are feeling cheerful, do you ever say to yourself, “I should go hang out with some gloomy people”?

You don’t! you look for other happy people.

Happy people attract happy people.

Miserable people attract miserable people.

And no one else can ever make you happy!

Where do we get the idea that someone else can MAKE us happy? Maybe from songs and movies …

In songs and movies people say, “Before you, I was lonely, I was a loser – but you change everything!”

In the real world people say, “Before you, I was miserable – but you made it worse!”

In the real world, other people don’t change our lives.

We do it ourselves.

If you are feeling down or depressed, only you can change your thoughts. Step by step, you pull yourself out of the hole.

As you begin to look on the bright side, you attract happy friends and colleagues.

To be surrounded by positive people, you first put a smile on your own face.

In a Nutshell

Your mission in life is not to change the world – just to change yourself.

 

 

 

 


Lessons

Annie is an intelligent, hard working, attractive lady with a great sense of humor. In the last twenty years she has had a string of relationships with drug addicts who spend her money and drunks who beat her up.

In life, history tends to repeat itself. Until we learn a lesson, we keep getting it again and again.

If people take advantage of you …

If your friends expect you to solve their problems, carry their stuff, clean their mess,

Buy their lunch – and keep doing it – it will keep happening.

If you keep getting ripped off …

If you allow yourself to be cheated by landlords, auto mechanics and repairmen, it will keep happening.

Until you find some courage or learn some skills, you will bleed money.

If you keep dating jerks …

If you tolerate rude, lazy, selfish boyfriends – figuring any relationship is better than no relationship – you’ll meet an endless stream of partners from hell.

History repeats itself until we make a stand.

You might say, “If I were somewhere else – maybe Hawaii – or if I had different friends – I wouldn’t have these problems!” Yes you would!

When we have a weakness, it’s like a magnet … wherever we go we attract the same lessons. It’s a law of life.

Miserable people say, “Why does everything happen to me?”

Effective people say, “I’d better learn this lesson or it will keep coming back.”

 

In a Nutshell

Assume that every problem in your life is a lesson to make you stronger. Then you never feel like a victim.

 

 

 


Making More Money

Question: Which people make the most money?

Answer: it’s mostly the people who use their imagination to create things …

People like Stephen King who create stories, people like Celine Dion who create music, people like the Ted Turners and Richard Bransons who build organizations and the Oprah Winfreys who create entertainment.

So, you say, “If I’m not a creative genius, and I want to make money, where will it come from?”

Answer, “From your imagination – whoever you are.”

Example: let’s say that you are broke and living on bread and water. You ask yourself, “How can I eat some healthy food and save money?”

Strategy: “I’ll grow bean sprouts in my kitchen for virtually nothing!”

After a month of eating sprouts, you figure, “I hate sprouts! I’ll sell my sprouts to the neighbors for a dollar a bag, and buy steak!” Ideas solve your money problems!

Example: You are already working for a boss but you want to make money in your spare time.

Strategy: You ask yourself, “What skills have I got – or what do I love to do – that people will pay me to do?” You imagine yourself making personalized greeting cards or walking the neighbors’ dogs. You imagine yourself renovating your apartment or teaching aerobics.

You try some ideas. Eventually one works. Where did it all begin? In your imagination.

If you already have your own business, increased profits will likely depend on how imaginatively you answer questions like … “How can I do more with less?” “How can I manage my time better?” “What do people really want – and how can I deliver it?”

And guess what? Many of your ideas won’t work. Fortunately, you don’t need every idea to work – just one or two.

In a nutshell

If money comes from your imagination, it is not necessarily working harder that will make you more money – it is an increase in the quantity and the quality of your ideas.

 

 

 

 


What is Most Important?

20% of the food you eat creates 80% of the fat!

20% of your neighbors make 80% of the noise.

20% of the people in your office do 80% of the work.

This is the 80/20 rule. You’ll see it everywhere.

In 1897 an Italian economist called Pareto discovered that 20% of people in England had 80% of the money. He also found that 20% of pea pods in his garden produced 80% of his peas.

His Pareto Principle predicts that in any situation, just a few things are much more important than all the rest.

This means: In business: 20% of customers give you 80% of the profits.

Look after that 20%!

For students: 20% of a book pages contain 80% of the information.

Concentrate on that 20% – then read the next book.

For you: your Daily Tasks are not equally important. If you have ten jobs to do today, two of them will be more critical than the other eight!

Every day, figure out the 20%. Do those things first.

Simply making a “to do list” is not good enough. Unless you target the 20% you can waste 80% of your time!

Average people put average effort into lots of things. Achievers put major effort into key things. You can’t do everything – but you can do the 20%. Don’t lose sleep over the 80%.

In a Nutshell

It’s not just the amount of effort that matters, but where you put it.

 

 

 

 

 


Making More Money

Question: Which people make the most money?

Answer: It’s mostly the people who use their imagination to create things …

People like Stephen King who create stories, people like Celine Dion who create music, people like the Ted Turners and Richard Bransons who build organizations and the Oprah Winfreys who create entertainment.

So, you say, “If I’m not a creative genius, and I want to make money, where will it come from?”

Answer, “From your imagination – whoever you are.”

Example: let’s say that you are broke and living on bread and water. You ask yourself, “How can I eat some healthy food and save money?”

Strategy: “I’ll grow bean sprouts in my kitchen for virtually nothing!”

After a month of eating sprouts, you figure, “I hate sprouts! I’ll sell my sprouts to the neighbors for a dollar a bag, and buy steak!” Ideas solve your money problems!

Example: You are already working for a boss but you want to make money in your spare time.

Strategy: You ask yourself, “What skills have I got – or what do I love to do – that people will pay me to do?” You imagine yourself making personalized greeting cards or walking the neighbors’ dogs. You imagine yourself renovating your apartment or teaching aerobics.

You try some ideas. Eventually one works. Where did it all begin? In your imagination.

If you already have your own business, increased profits will likely depend on how imaginatively you answer questions like … “How can I do more with less?” “How can I manage my time better?” “What do people really want – and how can I deliver it?”

And guess what? Many of your ideas won’t work. Fortunately, you don’t need every idea to work – just one or two.

In a nutshell

If money comes from your imagination, it is not necessarily working harder that will make you more money – it is an increase in the quantity and the quality of your ideas.

 

 

 

 


Why Think Positive?

When things go wrong, remember:

It’s not What Happens to You that matters most.

It’s how You Think About what happens to you …

Example:

Let’s say that you are at the airport, waiting to catch a flight, and the airline tells you, “Sorry! Mechanical trouble. You won’t be leaving for three hours!”

You are furious. You tell yourself:

“This is terrible! This is a disaster!”

While you remain stressed, things will get worse!

People will trip over you, spill coffee in your lap and lose your baggage.

When you fight life, life always wins.

Then finally you cool down. You tell yourself:

“There’s nothing I can do about it. I’ll make the most of it.”

Suddenly everything changes! From nowhere an old friend appears, or you make a new friend, or you stumble on a fresh opportunity – and life begins to support you.

Once we change our thoughts about “a bad situation”, we can take advantage of it.

Life’s great opportunities mostly arrive disguised as misfortune and disaster.

Example:

Imagine two women, Mary and Jane. Both get divorced.

Mary says, “I’ve failed. My life is over.”

Jane says, “My life has just begun!”

Who will blossom?

In a nutshell

Every “disaster” in your life is not so much a disaster, as a situation waiting for you to change your mind about it.

 

 

 

 

 


The Law of The Seed

The first book I ever wrote was a children’s book. I had heard that getting a book published can be tough, so I got the addresses of sixty children’s publishers, made sixty copies of my manuscript and sent them all over the world.

I felt really smart! I thought, “Worst case scenario I’ll get fifty rejections and then choose from the rest”.

Guess how many rejections I got! Sixty-one!! One publisher wrote to me twice! So, I wrote another book and sent that one out to publishers. Eventually someone said, “Yes.”

If we really want to make something happen, we usually need to try more than once.

It is a principle of nature.

Let’s say an apple tree bears five hundred apples, each with ten seeds. We might say, “That’s a lot of seeds! Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few more trees?

Because most seeds never grow.

In your life this principle might mean:

You’ll need to attend twenty interviews to get one job.

You’ll interview forty people to find one good employee.

You’ll talk to fifty people to sell one house, car, vacuum cleaner, insurance policy, idea.

And you might need a hundred acquaintances to find one special friend.

When we understand the “Law of the Seed”, we stop feeling like victims. We don’t get so disappointed.

The laws of nature are not things to take personally. We just need to understand them – and work with them.

In a nutshell

Successful people fail more often. They plant more seeds.

 

 

 

 

 

 


Mental Fitness

You’ll notice something about most people …

They have overcome serious set-backs.

Happy people sometimes go broke, get sick, get sacked – or get dumped!

Like everyone, happy people have their problems,

But they have the mental strength to focus on solutions.

They have developed “mental fitness”.

Mental fitness is like physical fitness.

You strengthen your muscles with exercise.

You run uphill.

Gradually you get stronger.

It is the same with your thinking.

You strengthen your mind by facing problems.

Struggle builds strength.

You don’t get strong by hiding under the bed.

You meet life head on.

You take some risks.

You fail and bounce back.

Day by day you gain confidence.

Gradually you build a positive attitude.

When life gets rough, remind yourself:

“This is making me mentally fit. I must be getting happier!”

 

In a nutshell

It is not necessarily an easy life that makes you happy.

Usually it’s the opposite!

 

 

 


Pain

When you accidentally bite your tongue, it’s hard to see “pain” as something positive. The same goes for a blister on your big toe.

Physical pain is a marvelous alarm system that prevents further damage. It tells us: “You’d better change what you’re doing!”

Emotional pain gives us a similar message, I.e. “You’d better change how you’re thinking!”

It’s normal to get angry or jealous or a bit resentful – temporarily. But if those feelings become permanent the message may be:

Don’t expect to control other people.

Don’t expect other people behave like you.

Don’t depend on other people to make you happy!

While we keep thinking the same thoughts, we keep feeling the same pain.

A blister on your foot is a message to change your shoes.

With emotional pain – which feels like a blister on the brain – the message is usually to change your thinking.

In a nutshell

With both physical and emotional pain, when we keep doing the same thing, it keeps hurting!

 

 

 

 


Patience

A woman approached the great violinist Fritz Kreisler after one of his concerts.

She said, “Mr. Kreisler, I would give my life to play as you play!”

He turned and smiled and said, “I did!”

If you want to be really good at something, you might need to spend your whole life practicing – or ten years practicing – or at least six months!

A hundred years ago, most people understood this.

Nowadays, people want instant results!

For whatever you want to do, here’s a strategy … practice every day, but don’t expect to see progress every day!

If you are:

Getting your body fit

Learning a new language

Taking singing lessons

Learning a new sport, beginning a hobby, starting a new career, give yourself enough time.

Get a daily plan, stick with it And allow yourself time to improve.

You might see little progress in a month. Give it six months of effort – or a year of effort – Then assess your improvement.

Most people quit too soon!

In a nutshell

To be successful, this is what you need – in order of importance:

1- patience and persistence

2- talent

 

 


Patterns

Some people are always broke! They win the lottery, and before you know it they need a bank loan to buy a hamburger.
Some people are always late! They can get up at 5:00 a.m. to be at work by 9:00, and at 10:15 they are still searching for car keys and brushing their teeth!

Some people make friends wherever they go.
some people make money wherever they go.
Some people always get sick on vacation.

Why? Because we have subconscious patterns of behavior. Most things we do, we do without thinking – as with breathing or driving a car. We spend all our cash automatically; we make ourselves late automatically.

Now here’s the good news … you are not your patterns. You can change your subconscious habits with visualization and mental rehearsal.

Professional sportspeople all use visualization. Why? Because our brain cells can’t tell the difference between a real and an imagined experience. When we visualize perfect behavior, we program our brain cells for better performance.

It’s easy. You simply close your eyes, take some deep breaths and relax, and play mental movies of you performing perfectly. Practice your golf swing in bed. Rehearse your public speaking on the bus – but in your mind.
Regularly picture yourself as organized, confident or performing at your peak.
Over weeks and months, you’ll notice the difference.

In a nutshell
No one has to stay stuck. If you are serious, you can change old patterns. You’re a human being – you’re not a tree.

 

 

 

 



Self-Talk

I knew a guy called Peter. He was forever telling people, “Everything I earn goes to pay bills”. He was like a parrot! And no surprise … he was always broke!

Your language shapes your life. If you tell people you are always broke, you will likely stay broke.

Imagine a boxer stepping into the ring, and telling himself:
“I’m a loser. I’m a chicken!”
How long would he last?

Imagine a singer walking on stage, and telling herself:
“I’m hopeless! They’ll hate me!”
How well would she sing?
It’s a recipe for disaster.
Yet, lots of us use this recipe every day. We tell ourselves:
“I’m fat.” “I have a lousy memory.” “I’m always broke”. “I’m an idiot.” then we wonder why we fail!
So how do you start to think positively? The first step is to watch your mouth! Notice what you say about yourself.
From today, never say Anything Bad About Yourself.
Never tell people: “I’m useless, I always screw up, my boyfriends always dump me … “
Make a commitment: “From today, I will not criticize myself. If I have nothing good to say about me, I will keep my mouth shut.”

It’s sometimes hard to control our thoughts – but we can control what comes out of our mouth. Once we take control of our language, we begin to have more positive thoughts and life gets better.

In a nutshell
We become what we think about!

 

 

 

 


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When Life Gets Tough

How do you survive when life gets tough?
How do you hang on when you are grieving, lonely or broke?
You can only tackle your problems as you would climb a mountain …
If you go rock climbing – and you get stuck on a ledge – you suddenly focus on the present moment!
You forget about the future. All your effort goes into your next step.
Then your next step. Inch by inch.
Eventually you claw your way out.
The same strategy works for everyday life.
When things seem desperate, you fix your focus on the present moment.
You tackle one problem at a time. You take a step. You get a little confidence …
And take another step, and another.
Eventually you find that the worst is over.
If you were to worry about
A) everything you need to do in the next month, or
B) everything that could go wrong in the next year, you could go nuts!

But you can handle one day at a time.
And whenever 24 hours is too tough, bite off five minutes at a time.

In a nutshell
All you can do is give your best effort until bedtime. Let tomorrow take care of itself.

 

 

 

 


Where am I going?

Did you ever ask yourself: “What am I doing in this stupid job?”
Do you ever feel like you are stuck?

If you feel frustrated or unhappy at work – whether you’re a chicken plucker or a brain surgeon – your best strategy is … Give It All You’ve Got.
Why?
You feel better about yourself
You develop your skills
You develop a reputation
Sometime, someone will notice you and offer you a better position, or
You’ll one day get the confidence to go do your own thing

Fred says, “If I had a great job, I would really work hard – but I’ve got this lousy job so I just sleep all day!” No, Fred!

When we continually give our best, life naturally leads us toward new opportunities. Sometimes it takes a while, but it happens.
One more thing … opportunities, job offers – and romance – usually arrive when we least expect them.
Great opportunities and life-changing relationships mostly happen in the most unlikely situations.
It’s life ‘s way of reminding us to give respect to everyone we meet.
It’s also life’s way of reminding us to keep an open mind!
Successful people tell themselves, “If I make the most of this opportunity, I’ll get a bigger one.”

In a nutshell
Life rewards effort, not excuses.

 

 

 

 


Why Set Goals?
Sometimes we pick up the newspaper and read where a mother of three has just rowed across the Atlantic in a bathtub – or we read about an accountant who is riding a camel from Calcutta to Casablanca.
We might ask ourselves, “Why not take a plane?”

The answer to that is … if you travel by bathtub (or camel), you arrive a very different person to the one who left!
Not only do you reach your destination knowing a lot more about stars and rain navigation – you know a lot more about yourself, and about your own courage and capabilities.

Buying a plane ticket doesn’t have the same effect.

When you set yourself a goal to run a business or a marathon, when you set a goal to get a degree or promotion, or to learn Chinese, you arrive a different person to the one who started.

That’s what “goals” are really about – what they make of us in the process of achieving them.

Your neighbors and your brother-in-law might not understand this concept.
So they ask you, “Why try so hard?”
“Why aim so high?”
The answer is, “For what we become in the process”.

In a nutshell
We set goals not for what we get, but for what we become.

 

 

 

 


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Wishing for Things

Lots of us use visualization to achieve goals. It’s where you:
A) choose a goal, and then
B) continue to imagine yourself with the goal already achieved – until you actually achieve it.

Whether you want to lose weight, gain confidence or get better at anything, experts agree that visualization works. “As you think, so you become.”
Regularly picturing success – and putting in the necessary effort – hastens results.
Visualizing means:
You choose a goal, e.g. a flat stomach, an interesting job, a change of lifestyle.
You picture your goal achieved in the present moment.
This image becomes fixed in your subconscious.
You continue to work toward your goal.
You keep moving forwards.

Wishing means:
You tell yourself, “I hate, What I’ve got.”
You wish for more money, or more happiness.
Your mind drifts around in the future.
You have no strategy.
Nothing happens.

Key point: we can only change our life by putting energy into the present moment. When we wish for things, our mind is in the future. So, the more we wish for things, the more we stay stuck!
Don’t wish! No matter how bad your situation! Set your goal, make a plan, picture your improvement, put in the effort. In the meantime, be happy with what you have got.

In a nutshell
As you think, so you become.
As you wish, so you become frustrated.

 

 

 

 


Your Mind is a Magnet

How often do you …
Bump into old friends in unlikely places?
Learn a new word, and suddenly you see it everywhere?
How often do you think about someone –
And seconds later they call you?

Coincidence? Not really.
Your mind is a magnet.

Happy people attract other happy people.
Positive thinkers attract opportunities.
Crooks attract crooks.

Thoughts might be invisible but they are real things – just like electricity or gravity. And thought energy obeys natural laws.
If radio waves and TV signals can travel huge distances – through bricks and concrete – why not thoughts? Your brain is at least as amazing as any TV transmitter.

A thousand books have been written on the power of thought. How many “coincidences” do we need to get the message?

If you worry enough about going broke, it will happen.
If you worry enough about getting sick, it will happen.

Picture yourself surrounded by true friends – and you’ll find them.
Picture success, and work toward it, and you are on your way.

In a nutshell
You attract what you think about.

 

 


Why?

My friend John Foppe was born with no arms.
But John never asks the question, “Why do I have no arms?”
The question he asks is, “What can I do with my feet?”

When tragedy strikes, or when we lose everything, or when a lover walks out on us, the question we usually ask is “WHY?”
“Why me?”
“Why now?”
“Why did she leave me for a loser?”

Asking “WHY?” questions can make us crazy.
Often, there is no answer to “WHY?”
Or it doesn’t matter why!

Effective people ask “WHAT?” questions …
“WHAT am I going to do about it?”
“WHAT do I learn from this?”

When the situation is really desperate, they ask,
“WHAT can I do, just in the next 24 hours, to make things better?”

In a nutshell
The happiest people don’t bother about whether life is fair.
They just make the most of what they have.
And is life “fair?” probably not. But it doesn’t matter why!